I know I haven’t even begun to tell you about our infertility journey yet, but I think its important to capture my emotions while they are raw. And they are RAW right now.  So consider this the intermission of my story.

Today was day 14 of our two week wait. Those who are also on this journey know that the damn 2WW seems like the longest two weeks of your life. We did our first IUI 14 days ago. I will describe the actual procedure later in my blog, for now I am going to focus on these crazy emotions.

I was very hopeful for the first week and half. While I was hopeful, I also had to prepare myself for disappointment. I had to stay realistic that this just might not be the time it sticks. And this wasn’t the time that it stuck.

I woke up this morning to pee on a stick and sure as shit, negative. Not even a faint line I could imagine to be there. This sucker was as negative as it could get.


I haven’t cried about it yet, I hate crying. Even when I’m alone. Its coming though. I can feel it. The anger and sadness are just building up and waiting to come out. I’m sure it will come at the worst time, as it always does. I was prepared for this disappointment. I knew days ago I was going to get a negative test. I could feel it. It still sucks to see it.


Grab the tissue

When you start trying to conceive you get asked the same questions over and over and over and over. One of those questions is “Have you ever been pregnant before?”. My answer to that is, yes. And here is that story…..

Logan and I had been dating for about two years when I realized I hadn’t gotten a visit from lovely Aunt Flo for a little toooo long.  We were not ready for this. We did not plan this. I FUCKING PANICKED.  I went to the drug store and stocked up on pregnancy tests. The first one, positive. The second one, positive. The third one, positive. Now I was really freaking. How was I going to tell Logan this? We hadn’t even discussed having children! When Logan came home from work, I was curled up in the fetal position crying. Logan, being the wonderful, easy going man that he, is simply told me “It is going to be fine.”

As I mentioned in my previous blog, Logan and I were regular customers at our small town bar, so it didn’t take our friends long to figure out that something was up. I was 6 weeks pregnant when I found out and by 8 weeks most of our friends and family knew about it (mistake #1).  We were very excited. I had a friend who was also got pregnant around that time and I was looking forward to our children growing up together. I was 10 weeks pregnant when I woke up on a Sunday morning and realized I was bleeding. That day is marked as the worst day of my life thus far.  Logan was not home (probably out hunting or doing some very manly thing), so I called him to tell him.  He was home within minutes and rushed me to the hospital.  My mother and sister met me at the hospital and tried to assure me that everything was fine. But I knew, everything was not fine.  After a terrible experience with a terrible doctor (that hospital visit could be a whole story on its own) we were told that there was no longer a heartbeat. How could this be? I had two ultrasounds prior to this. I heard that heartbeat. How could it just be gone?!? The look on Logan’s face is one I will never forget. That is the moment I knew, he truly loves me.

The next couple of weeks are a blur. Although the ER doctor told me that my miscarriage would “take care of itself naturally” after speaking with my doctor I decided to have a D&C. I don’t remember much of the actual procedure day, except sitting there and thinking “How is this my life? This stuff does not happen to me”. I will never forget the date, it was one month before my 29th birthday. I now had to go tell all my friends, family, and co workers that I was no longer pregnant. This was the hard part. Everyone was very kind and understanding. However, at that point all of the I’m sorrys and This must be God’s plans and I’ll be thinking of yous just sounded like “blah blah blah”. I was too angry and hurt to hear any of those things. My favorite was when I would tell someone and they would respond with a story; “my sister had a miscarriage once. It was no big deal. She was back to the gym in a couple days”. Well good for your fucking sister, that is not me. I am broken. I had plans for that baby, and now all those plans are gone. Yes, I only knew I was pregnant for a four weeks, but in those weeks I had prepared myself for the future. I was ready to change my life and become a mother. It is not a pain that goes away. I think of it many times a year but especially on March 25th, one month before my birthday.

I’m going to end by telling you something about myself that I forgot to put in the first blog.

I am a great freaking aunt, if I do say so myself. It is a blessing I am thankful for every day. I am an aunt to not only my niece and nephews but also to my friends’ children. However, I have always wanted to be a mother. I was put on this world, to be a mother. And god damnit, I will be a mother.



Warning and Welcome

I am going to start right off with a warning. This is not your average infertility blog. Before you read any further, I need you to do me a favor. Go up and press that little X in the right hand corner if any of the following pertain to you:

  1. If it makes you blush to say any of the following words: PENIS, VAGINA, PERIOD, SPERM, SEXUAL INTERCOURSE, or MASTURBATE.
  2. If you simply cannot handle any sort of cursing and do not want to be part of a community who does curse.
  3. If you just have a shitty sense of humor

Now that we have gotten rid of all the Debbie Downer’s, I can get on with the rest of my warning. I AM NOT A WRITER. The closest thing I have to a journalism degree is the communications class I failed out of in 2004. Feel free to judge my spelling, grammar, and use of punctuation. At the same time, please realize, I don’t give a damn.

On to the fun stuff! I am going to start off by telling you a little bit about myself and the ol’ ball and chain.

My name is Traci. I am 32 years old (but will forever remain 22 in my own mind). I am a healthy little broad. Not over or under the “ideal” weight for my height. No past of any sort of STD’s (THANK YOU, JESUS). No illness or diseases. No family history of any infertility or any problems with lady parts. I have actually been told by MORE THAN ONE doctor that I have a great looking cervix. So yeah, be jealous.

The man who is lucky enough to be married to that cervix is Logan. A health 29 year old hunk of a man. Logan also has no illness, no diseases, and no signs of any problems with man parts in his history. He has EXCELLENT sperm, which he likes to brag about often.

You are probably thinking “Why the hell do I care about your cervix or your husbands sperm?” Well my friend, what I am telling you is that there is NO GOD DAMN GOOD REASON that we are suffering from infertility.

Logan and I met about six years ago (who’s counting, right?).  We were just young, fun loving kids and we met where all young, fun loving kids do. The local tavern. We shared a couple dances, maybe a little more, and that was that for awhile. Logan courted me for a bit, but I would have none of it. I was a wild woman and did not want to be tamed! However, my husband is a persistent and very stubborn man. Finally after about four months of avoiding him like the plague, I decided to give him a chance. And boy am I glad I did……………

I’ll be back with more later. If I give you all the good shit now, you’ll never come back

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